tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11646923.post2691602661482628349..comments2023-10-12T04:19:57.931-04:00Comments on No Polar Coordinates: Unsolicited AdviceMary Stebbins Taitthttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10626507461216769140noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11646923.post-45094431740276471632011-01-30T12:50:36.032-05:002011-01-30T12:50:36.032-05:00I think talking really helps me feel connected and...I think talking really helps me feel connected and sort things out.Mary Stebbins Taitthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10626507461216769140noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11646923.post-2643121449135842912011-01-30T01:06:35.050-05:002011-01-30T01:06:35.050-05:00Oh, I didn't think you were blaming me - I'...Oh, I didn't think you were blaming me - I'm just feeling guilty, because I've been so out of touch lately. I really am going to try to make more time. I miss our chats :]bluerosehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09454168542120117493noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11646923.post-25892161099192684892011-01-28T22:35:35.375-05:002011-01-28T22:35:35.375-05:00I wasn't blaming YOU! NO! I'm busy too, ...I wasn't blaming YOU! NO! I'm busy too, we all are. But it's crazy to be so busy you can't have friends!1Mary Stebbins Taitthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10626507461216769140noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11646923.post-4686867352656512312011-01-28T11:03:44.910-05:002011-01-28T11:03:44.910-05:00I'm so sorry. I'm going to try to make mor...I'm so sorry. I'm going to try to make more time.bluerosehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09454168542120117493noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11646923.post-60666790813339962982011-01-27T17:36:13.227-05:002011-01-27T17:36:13.227-05:00too bad we're all so busy that it is hard to m...too bad we're all so busy that it is hard to make new friends or talk to the old ones even!!!Mary Stebbins Taitthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10626507461216769140noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11646923.post-63175577408893233992011-01-27T16:35:33.439-05:002011-01-27T16:35:33.439-05:00Men! I guess that's just how they are, at leas...Men! I guess that's just how they are, at least according to the book "Men are from Mars...". When a woman tells them a problem, they feel it's their duty to solve it.<br /><br />I know what you mean about not having others to talk to. After getting involved in this relationship and moving, it seems I've isolated myself, as well. Sometimes I think I've just stopped talking.bluerosehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09454168542120117493noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11646923.post-83124992422357234482011-01-27T10:38:07.769-05:002011-01-27T10:38:07.769-05:00My problem stems in part from the loss friends due...My problem stems in part from the loss friends due to my move to Detroit and my lack of making new friends here. I think I used to do just that.Mary Stebbins Taitthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10626507461216769140noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11646923.post-34764428228742661982011-01-27T10:37:15.916-05:002011-01-27T10:37:15.916-05:00It's excellent advice. However, my circle of ...It's excellent advice. However, my circle of friends has shrunk! I have very few friends any more. That is, friends I see in the flash and have actual conversations with. I don't have much choice. But it is good advice.Mary Stebbins Taitthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10626507461216769140noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11646923.post-15803656189105403052011-01-26T23:34:07.948-05:002011-01-26T23:34:07.948-05:00You know how my sister resolves this same exact is...You know how my sister resolves this same exact issue? You touched upon it when you said, "... when I tell him about a problem I am having & what I want is sympathy, understanding, hugs, he often gives me unsolicited advice."<br /><br />If someone is inclined to give advice & not the kind of comfort you are looking for, perhaps you should be telling your problem to someone else... not the person inclined to give advice? That's my sister's solution. She has different people she chooses to tell different kinds of problems. When she wants sympathy, she tells a sympathizer. When she wants advice, she tells an advisor.<br /><br />Was my response OK? Or was that unwanted advice? :-)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com